CityBeat’s Living Out Loud – Cincinnati Blog

{March 18, 2007}   In Praise of Older Men

teri-_1.jpgMaybe my searching is over. I’ve looked for the perfect man in many Cincinnati bars and clubs and I think I realize now this was a mistake. I’ve had to learn the hard way.

I met a gentleman a couple weeks ago while eating lunch at a restaurant downtown. I noticed he kept looking at me, smiling on occasion. He apparently noticed I was having a gin and tonic to drink. The waitress brought me over another one – paid for by the man probably 20 years older than me.

We had a nice, polite conversation and when we parted, I gave him my phone number.

The next evening, we had dinner in Mt. Adams where he lives. The conversation was bright and intelligent. After dinner, I went back to his place, but we didn’t have sex. We drank some wine and talked. It was refreshing – a change for me.

Last night, after getting together almost every night, we made love. It was wonderful – candles lit all over in his bedroom, satin sheets on the bed.

He knew all the right moves. He knew exactly where to touch me. We made love for hours.

Afterwards, we had some wine and kissed. I stayed the night.

Perhaps older men know how to treat a woman better. Maybe older men have learned from their past mistakes.

I don’t want to sound like LOL Girl, but older men aren’t little boys.

Teri Archer



tommy says:

with your “record” on dating, i give this about another week.

Kelly says:

My husband is 15 years older than me and we’ve been married for over 10 years now. The marriage and the sex couldn’t be better. Older men have more experience when it comes to love making, more patience. Stick with this guy.

Jackie says:

I’ve lost track of how many guys you’ve been with. Tell me something: Have you?

Taylor says:

It works the other way too. My current girlfriend is older than me. I’m not sure what her age is, but when it comes to sex, I’ve never had any better. Experience counts.

hard as nails says:

did you do it in every room in his apartment?
did you allow anal sex?
you are leaving out too many details. thats not like you.

Isis says:

“Older men aren’t little boys” Perhaps not with sex but in most other realms, they are still little boys. Relationships are not based just on sex.

Matt says:

Relationships are not based just on sex.

If anyone really needs to focus in on these words, it’s you Teri. Sorry, that’s just what I think.

Gus_J says:

Me thinks this was written by an older man 🙂

Perry says:

My 87-year-old grandfather is looking for somebody. Interested?

Babble On says:

Me thinks this was written by someone addicted to sex. Look at her other posts and you’ll see what I mean.

Rapid Shave says:

Hey, aren’t you the chick who screwed her boss and then found out he was taking viagra? You think this old guy isn’t?

Stan says:

Age is just a number. If you two click, go for it.

Jeff says:

What’s your next post going to be about – sleeping with spacemen?

Don says:

I’ve gone back and read through all your other posts and most relate to some kind of sexual experience. Don’t you think you should cool it a little? AIDS is alive and well, Teri.

Heather says:

Older men are great. 20 years is pushing it for many practical reasons.

Sex is one thing, but when it comes to a long term relationship, large disparities in age, income, or intelligence should be avoided. It’s not that those relationships can’t work out, it’s just that they usually don’t.

My grandma was almost 20 years older than my grandpa. This would have been more of a problem if he had taken better care of himself, but she just passed away in her 80’s, and he’s not far behind in his 60’s. They have been a great couple.

Polo Stick says:

That’s a great body that you almost show us.

hard as nails says:

What’s your next post going to be about – sleeping with spacemen?

i see farm animals in her future.

Robin says:

Isis is right. Once the love making becomes familiar, what will you have? I believe any kind of physical relationship between a man and woman needs to begin with communication and friendship. That has to be the foundation.

Bill says:

“Age is just a number. If you two click, go for it.”

Yeah, just like Anna Nicole and that old fart she married. Have a good time.

Bitch from Price Hill says:

Face up to the fact that you’re a slut. I mean, you will sleep with anything that walks and has a penis.

C.A. says:

older, younger, bring it on.

Bitch from Price Hill says:

older, younger, bring it on.

?? You’re a slut too?

puff-on-it says:

you seem to have a new man every week. where do i get in line?

Vickie says:

Some of the comments here have been very mean to you, but you seem to leave yourself wide open to it. Why?

Ralph Mouth says:

Jackie says
I’ve lost track of how many guys you’ve been with.

Just let me say, Teri, I wouldn’t mine being the next one 🙂

Donny says:

That’s a beautiful photograph of you, Teri.

Matt says:

Look out, Teri — Donny’s back. He had a big old crush on the LOL girl. Beware!

Brian the 1st says:

welcome to the way it’s supposed to be, aka being with someone who knows what they’re doing. Don’t listen to the uptight and repressed here among us, enjoy your sexuality when you find a chemistry that cooks.
The older I’ve become, the more I cam appreciate what an erotic and sensuous experience sex with a woman can be, especially when a little time is taken with conversational foreplay. Hookups are fun but shallow, a fast food version of sex that satisfies my hunger but doesn’t exactly make me lick my lips for more.
So enjoy the ride with this man while it lasts and fuck what anyone else thinks.

jackula says:

I believe any kind of physical relationship between a man and woman needs to begin with communication and friendship.

i agree with your statement but it is flawed. some of us are gay. we ALSO need communication and friendship above the simple act of fucking.

Mike says:

You really get under my skin, Archer. You put down us smokers but you’ll screw anybody else. I think you’re a self-rightous horny bitch.

Jen says:

I like what Brian had to say, you know? Not all of us are looking for a commitment. Sex is fun. Sex is a lot of fun. It doesn’t have to mean marriage.

Teri, enjoy this man while it is still good. If it turns out not to be good later, that’s all right.

Variety is the spice of life.

Here's my rod says:

I totally agree with this Brian cat. Now get on over here so I can screw your living brains out.

Ecky says:

Here, here, Brian!

My mother had this book called “The Joy of Sex.” I was over at her house a couple years ago and borrowed it.

Still got it!

Nothing wrong with having sex for fun. Enjoy your old guy.

Rita says:

Out of curiousity, this older man’s name isn’t Slim is it?

Marilyn says:

Hmmm, HMR said: “Now get on over here so I can screw your living brains out.”

Yep, I guess that better than screwing her dead brains out.

Charlene says:

You’re a god awful mess. Stop drinking and stop having sex with every guy you meet while walking down the sidewalk. Get some help.

Janie says:

You’re a fucking bitch..

Patrick says:

That photo of you is super hot, really special. Lose your old fart boyfriend and come to yours truly.

Lee says:

Teri, my wife is 20+ years older than me and we get along just fine. Our love life is everything you would expect it to me.

When they say age is just a number, that’s about right.

tele says:

blow me

Isis says:

I was always attracted to slighter older men when I was younger. Now that I am older I would probably have to start visiting the retirement homes. I actually still feel like I’m in my twenties. Weird huh?

I did date one younger man; it was interesting to go to bars with him; the management would card me in order to not be offensive about the age difference. I hate to be patronized. I met him recently; he’s older now but still functioning on the junior high maturity level.

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